No matter what season of life we are in, who we choose to spend our time with is crucial. Think about it, time is our most valuable commodity! If we waste time on the wrong people we won’t have time for the right people in our lives.
I think it is good to have four types or groups of people in our lives. We need wise people who are more knowledgeable than us (a mentor of sorts). We need others who are walking through life about where we are (if you are a mother of an infant, teen, etc. It is nice to talk to someone who understands!). We need to be reaching out to others who need us. Last, but most important we need to choose our closest friends. These are our confidants, the few select who we will share our deepest thoughts with.
I have come to realize that it is a privilege to be in someones close circle of friends. I have also learned that I don’t need to share my deepest secrets with anyone outside my core group of people. It is important to learn discretion in regards to what we share with others. Remember, you don’t owe anyone full access to your life!
There is a balance that needs to happen. We cannot give all of our time to those who need us and our wisdom. We need to be filled and inspired by those who have walked the road ahead of us. To keep us humble and thankful we need to spend time on someone other than ourselves.
We also need to choose our core trusted friends wisely so that we can have a safe place to share our most intimate thoughts. We need to have those who understand where we are at in life and can identify with our current struggles. Sometimes these people fall into more than one category. Other times not.
It is important for us to think about our friends. Think about their life, their wisdom, and ultimately their role in our lives. If we want good solid advice, we need to seek wise counsel. If we want to help others it is important to have boundaries and understand our mission or goal.
Use your time wisely, you will never get it back. Have someone you can look up to, someone you can pull up, and someone to walk with you. Remember what an honor it is to be someone’s confidant and choose your inner circle with care. 🙂